Category Archives: Perspective

MONDAY MUSINGS

I couldn’t sleep last night, my mind could not shut off. I was thinking of all the things I need to do, and want to do. The things that worry me and the things that are out of my control.  As I tried unsuccessfully to sleep my good friend Brandy’s son Silas took his last breath. I woke up and my weight is holding steady at 170, but none of that matters today.

I first met Brandy when I was working in a restaurant in Palo Alto, and she was visiting so Silas her son could get treatment at Stanford University. We quickly hit it off, and I was honored to meet Silas as well. Their story of love inspired me through my many moves. Brandy-continued to really live life as she cared unselfishly for her terminally ill son. She was out doing fun runs with friends, seeing concerts, volunteering, and being the driving force for the wellness of her son. She was an optimist and an advocate. There was nothing she wouldn’t do for the care of her son. I admire her deeply and this blog post is dedicated to her. 

People have told me I’m strong and inspiring, and I’ve been through a few challenges in the last two years; but nothing like Brandy. I can fall apart at the thought of my cat being possibly ill. It was those thoughts, pet insurance etc that kept me from my beauty sleep last night. I woke to the news that Silas had passed away. All of a sudden losing a nights sleep to anxiety didn’t matter. My heart goes out to Brandy, my prayers for her and her son Jake as they navigate their new normal without Silas. They say when someone passes they earn their wings, I hope Silas is playing with the angels with abandon. In my heart Brandy has earned her wings too. There are angels who walk among us, and my friend Brandy is definitely one of them. So much love Brandy. 

 

 

PERSPECTIVE

Happy Tuesday to all. It’s day two of my 30 day yoga challenge, and as I step onto my mat I’m contemplating perspective. My practice begins with setting intentions, and each day I do 10 sun salutations. Afterwards, I may or may not practice savasana. I’m having issues with my toes, so I cannot roll them as I transition from up dog to down dog. Melissa from Melissa Bender Fitness told me yoga is not about rolling your toes, and for me to personalize and modify my practice to make it my own. 

This brings me to perspective as I muse my bodies strengths and limitations. A year ago I was visiting friends in Los Angeles, and I had lunch with one of my dearest friends. She was in recovery from surgery for a brain tumor. The doctors told her recovery would be weeks, but it was much longer and definitely much more challenging. She’s a dancer and Pilates instructor, and she showed up to physical therapy with self-pity because her life had radically changed. She walks with a cane and her body has spasms and tremors. She looked around physical therapy and realized she was the only person in the room who had all of her limbs, and she told me it taught her perspective. Very deep and enlightening.  I was in awe of her strength and resilience, and the fact she was able to learn something from the terrible ordeal of brain surgery. 

Today another friend of mine posted almost the exact experience, physical therapy after an ankle injury and how she noticed a man with artificial limbs in the room, she even hashtagged the same exact word, perspective.

Her story parallels the story from my other friend, and I realized this is a life lesson. A lot of us go through life, we start our fitness journeys with self loathing, or we are not content where we are in life. We constantly compare our progress to others. We look at others and sometimes we feel inadequate, the comparing game is very dangerous to your own personal fulfillment and happiness. It’s ok to look to others to gain inspiration, but not to make you feel any less. You are more than enough. 

These stories teach us to be happy in the present moment, and to understand our journey is unique to only us. We all should be grateful to be alive and to experience  whatever opportunities we have each and every day as we awaken. The person who doesn’t have limbs may be grateful they lived to see another day, and survived whatever it was that brought them to where they are today. 

Contemplate perspective each and every day and be present in this moment now, setting your intentions beginning with gratitude. It’s definitely very enlightening when we shift our negative thoughts into positive ones, choosing happiness despite the journey of life’s rocky roads. Just be sure to step over the rocks and move forward with perspective and self-love. Happy brand new beginnings to all, after all each day is a brand new beginning.